MAKBS 

A 

FRIEND? 


Uniform  with  this  Volume 

IN  FRIENDSHIP'S  NAME 


HAT    MAKES    A 
FRIEND? 

DEFINITIONS  AND 
OPINIONS  FROM 
VARIOUS  SOURCES  COL- 
LECTED AND  COMPILED 
BY  VOLNEY  STREAMER 


OUT,  ah,  no  words  can  quite  disclose 
What  makes  a  friend  ! 


NEW   YORK 

BRENTANO'S 

MCMIII 


First  Edition:  set  up,  electrotyped,  and  printed  in  Chicago, 

October,  1892. 
Second  Edition:  enlarged  and  printed  in  New  York,  June, 

1894. 
Third  Edition:  published  in  Boston,  June,  1895.    Reprinted 

July,  1896. 
Fifth  Edition:  again  enlarged,  published  in  New  York,  July, 

1899. 
Sixth  Edition  :  published,  April,  1901. 

Seventh  Edition  :  published,  January,  1900. 
Eighth  Edition  :  published,  January,  1903. 


COPYRIGHT,  1892,  1899, 
By  VOLNEY  STREAMER 

COPYRIGHT,  1895, 
By  LAMSON,  WOLFPB,  &  Co. 


Extracts  from  copyrighted  authors  use 


TO  MY  FRIEND 

"  What  is  tetittetn  tts  two,  we  knirw  : 
Shakt  hands  and  Itt  the  wholt  world  fo. 


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|H,  friend,  let  us  be  true 

To  one  another  !     For  the  world,  which  seems 
To  lie  before  us  like  a  land  of  dreams, 
So  various,  so  beautiful,  so  new, 
Hath  really  neither  joy,  nor  love,  nor  light, 
Nor  certitude,  nor  peace,  nor  help  for  pain  ; 
And  we  are  here  as  on  a  darkling  plain 
Swept  with  confused  alarms  of  struggle  and  flight, 
Where  ignorant  armies  clash  by  night. 

— Matthew  Arnold. 


SLENDER  acquaintance  with 

the  world  must  convince  every 

man  that  actions,  not  words,  are  the 
true  criterion  of  the  attachment  of 
friends ;  and  that  the  most  liberal 
professions  of  good-will  are  very  far 
from  being  the  surest  marks  of  it. 

— George   Washington. 


IV]  o    distance  of   place   or  lapse   of 

time  can  lessen  the  friendship  of 

those  who  are  thoroughly  persuaded 

of  each  other's  worth. 

— Robert  Southey. 


A    LITTLE  peaceful  home 

Bounds  all  my  wants  and  wishes ;  add  to  this 
My  book  and  friend,  and  this  is  happiness. 

— Francesco  di  Rioja. 


|F  all  felicities,  the  most  charm- 
ing is  that  of  a  firm  and  gentle 
friendship.  It  sweetens  all  our  cares, 
dispels  our  sorrows,  and  counsels  us 
in  all  extremities.  Nay,  if  there  were 
no  other  comfort  in  it  than  the  bare 
exercise  of  so  generous  a  virtue,  even 
for  that  single  reason  a  man  would 
not  be  without  it;  it  is  a  sovereign 
antidote  against  all  calamities  —  even 
against  the  fear  of  death  itself. 

— Seneca. 


T    is   chance   that  makes   brothers, 
but  hearts  that  make  friends. 

—  Unknown. 


|RE  we  ever  truly  read,  save  by 
the  one  that  loves  us  best  ? 
Love  is  blind,  the  phrase  runs.  Nay, 
I  would  rather  say,  love  sees  as  God 
sees,  and  with  infinite  wisdom  has 

infinite  pardon. 

— Ouida. 


TTHESE  things  do  not  require  to  be 
spoken;  there  is  something  in  the 
hand  grip,  and  the  look  in  the  eye 
that  makes  you  know  your  man. 

— C.  H addon  Chambers. 


U  T  WOULD  go  up  to  the  gates  of  hell  with  a  friend, 

Through  thick  and  thin." 

The  other  said,  as  he  bit  off  a  concha's  end, 

"  I  would  go  in." 

— John  Ernest  McCann. 


|O  word  is  oftener  on  the  lips  of 
men  than  "  friendship,"  and  in- 
deed no  thought  is  more  familiar  to 
their  aspirations.  All  men  are  dream- 
ing of  it,  and  its  drama,  which  is  al- 
ways a  tragedy,  is  enacted  daily.  It  is 
the  secret  of  the  universe. 

—  Thoreau. 

T  T  is  a  sad  thing  that  there  comes  a 
moment    when     misery     unknots 
friendships.    There  were  two  friends; 
there  are  two  passers-by  ! 

—  Victor  Hugo. 

\17HO  in  want  a  hollow  friend  doth  try, 
Directly  seasons  him  his  enemy. 
— Shakspere. 

FRIENDSHIP — to  be  two  in  one — 

1^ 

Let  the  canting  liar  pack  ! 
Well  I  know,  when  I  am  gone, 

How  she  mouths  behind  my  back. 

—  Tennyson. 


OFTEN  find  myself  going 
back  to  Darwin's  saying  about 
the  duration  of  a  man's  friendships 
being  one  of  the  best  measures  of 
his  worth. 

— Anne   Thackeray  Ritchie. 


"PHAT  two  men  may  be  real  friends, 
they  must  have  opposite  opinions, 
similar  principles,  and  different  loves 
and  hatreds. 

— Chateaubriand. 


IT  is  a  good  thing  to  be  rich,  and  a 
good  thing  to  be  strong,  but  it  is  a 
better  thing  to  be  beloved  of  many 
friends. 

— Euripides. 


|IME  keeps  no  measure  when  true  friends  are  parted, 

No  record  day  by  day ; 
The  sands  move  not  for  those  who,  loyal-hearted, 
Friendship's  firm  laws  obey. 

— Meredith  Nicholson. 


PVEVOTION  to  a  friend  does  not  con- 
sist  in  doing  everything  for  him, 
but  simply  that  which  is  agreeable,  and 
of  service  to  him,  and  let  it  only  be 
revealed  by  accident. 

—  Unknown. 


A    TRUE  test  of  friendship,  to  sit  or 
walk  with  a  friend  for  an  hour  in 
perfect  silence  without  wearying  of 
one  another's  company. 

— Mrs.  Mulock  Craik. 


|H1NK  of  those  twenty  years  of 
Napoleon,  from  1790  to  1810. 
How  he  beat  and  buffeted  the  world 
about  like  a  tennis  ball;  how  he 
hated  without  loving  and  destroyed 
without  constructing;  how  he  smote 
with  breathless  terror  every  nation  of 
the  earth,  and  yet  could  not  fasten 
to  him  with  hooks  enduring  a  single 
friend  who  would  outlive  calamity. 

—  Unknown. 

TIE  who  serves  and  seeks  for  gain, 
And  follows  but  for  form, 

Will  pack  when  it  begins  to  rain, 
And  leave  thee  in  the  storm. 

— Shakspere. 

T  HAVE  never  believed  much  in  friend- 
ship ;  it  is  a  tie  which  binds  the 
weak.       Strong    characters   break   it 
early. 

—  Willis  S tee  IL 


|OW  were  Friendship  possible? 
In  mutual  devotedness  to  the 
Good  and  True ;  otherwise  impos- 
sible ;  except  as  Armed  Neutrality, 
or  hollow  Commercial  League.  A 
man,  be  the  Heavens  ever  praised,  is 
sufficient  for  himself;  yet  were  ten 
men,  united  in  Love,  capable  of  being 
and  doing  what  ten  thousand  singly 
would  fail  in.  Infinite  is  the  help 
man  can  yield  to  man 

— Thomas  Carlyle. 

"pHE  first  foundation  of  friendship 
is  not  the  power  of  conferring 
benefits,  but  the  equality  with  which 
they  are  received,  and  may  be  re- 
turned. 

— Junius. 

IT   is   more   disgraceful   to   distrust 
than    to    be     deceived     by    our 
friends. 

— Rochefoucauld. 


|ERE  all  thy  fond  endeavors  vain 

To  chase  away  the  sufferers  smart, 
Still  hover  near,  lest  absence  pain 
His  lonely  heart. 

For  friendship's  tones  have  kindlier  power 

Than  odorous  fruit,  or  nectared  bowl, 
To  soothe,  in  sorrow's  languid  hour, 
The  sinking  soul. 

—Sadi. 


TF  a  man  does  not  make  new  acquain- 
tances as  he  passes  through  life, 
he  will  soon  find  himself  left  alone. 
A  man  should  keep  his  friendships 
in  constant  repair. 

— -Johnson. 


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1 1 RST  of  all  things  for  friendship 
there  must  be  that  delightful, 
indefinable  state  called  feeling  at  ease 
with  your  companion, — the  one  man, 
the  one  woman  out  of  a  multitude 
who  interests  you,  who  meets  your 
thoughts  and  tastes. 

— Julia  Duhring. 


FRIENDSHIP  based  solely  upon  grati- 
tude is  li 
time  it  fades. 


M 

tude  is  like  a  photograph  ;  with 


— Carmen  Sylva. 


A  ND  what  is  friendship  but  a  name, 

A  charm  that  lulls  to  sleep  ; 
A  shade  that  follows  wealth  or  fame, 
But  leaves  the  wretch  to  weep  ? 
— Goldsmith. 


|WO  people  who  are  friends 
make  themselves  responsible 
for  each  other.  If  I  had  a  friend, 
and  he  went  to  the  bad,  and  I  met 
him  in  rags  and  poverty  and  disgrace, 
and  if  it  ruined  me  to  own  him  and 
help  him,  I  should  have  to  do  it.  If 
two  men  are  really  friends,  nothing 
can  come  between  them. 

— David  Christie  Murray. 


FRIENDSHIP  above  all  ties  does  bind  the  heart, 

le  noblest  part. 
— Lord  Orrery. 


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And  faith  in  friendship  is  the  noblest  part. 


IF  you  would  know  how  rare  a  thing 
a  true  friend  is,  let  me  tell  you 
that  to  be  a  true  friend  a  man  must 
be  perfectly  honest. 

— Henry  IV.  Skaw. 


FRIEND  is  a  rare  book,  of 
which  but  one  copy  is  made. 
We  read  a  page  of  it  every  day,  till 
some  woman  snatches  it  from  our 
hands,  who  sometimes  peruses  it,  but 
more  frequently  tears  it 

— Unknown. 


|VTo  love  in  any  relation  of  life  can  be 
*  at  its  best  if  the  element  of  friend- 
ship be  lacking,  and  no  love  can 
transcend,  in  its  possibilities  of  noble 
and  ennobling  exaltation,  a  love  that 

is  pure  friendship. 

— H.  C.  Trumbull. 


'"THE  difficulty  is  not  so  great  to  die 
for  a  friend,  as  to  find  a  friend 
worth  dying  for. 

— Home. 


|HERE  are  evergreen  men  and 
women  in  the  world,  praise  be 
to  God !  —  not  many  of  them,  but  a 
few.  They  are  not  the  showy  folk; 
they  are  not  the  clever,  attractive 
folk.  (Nature  is  an  old  fashioned 
shopkeeper:  she  never  puts  her  best 
goods  in  the  window.)  They  are 
only  the  quiet,  strong  folk;  they  are 
stronger  than  the  world,  stronger 
than  life  or  death,  stronger  than  Fate. 
The  storms  of  life  sweep  over  them, 
and  the  rains  beat  down  upon  them, 
and  the  biting  frosts  creep  round 
them;  but  the  winds  and  the  rains 
and  the  frosts  pass  away,  and  they 
are  still  standing,  green  and  straight. 
They  love  the  sunshine  of  life  in  their 
undemonstrative  way  —  its  pleasures, 
its  joys.  But  calamity  cannot  bow 
them,  sorrow  and  affliction  bring  not 
despair  to  their  serene  faces,  only  a 
little  tightening  of  the  lips;  the  sun  of 
our  prosperity  makes  the  green  of 
their  friendship  no  brighter,  the  frost 
of  our  adversity  kills  not  the  leaves 
of  their  affection. 

—Jerome  K.Jerome. 


FAITHFUL  and  true  friend 
is  a  living  treasure,  inestim- 
able in  possession,  and  deeply  to  be 
lamented  when  gone.  Nothing  is 
more  common  than  to  talk  of  a  friend; 
nothing  more  difficult  than  to  find 
one ;  nothing  more  rare  than  to  im- 
prove by  one  as  we  ought. 

He  who  has  made  the  acquisition 
of  a  judicious  and  sympathizing 
friend,  may  be  said  to  have  doubled 
his  mental  resources. 

—Robert  Hall, 


HP  HE  anxiety  of  some  people  to  make 
new  friends   is  so  intense    that 
they  never  have  old  ones. 

—  Unknown. 


'HERS  will  kiss  you  while  your  mouth  is  red; 
Beauty  is  brief.     Of  all  the  guests  who  come 
When  the  lamps  shine  on  flowers,  and  wine,  and  bread, 

In  time  of  famine  who  will  spare  a  crumb? 
Therefore,  oh,  next  to  God  I  pray  you,  keep 

Yourself  as  your  own  friend,  the  tried,  the  true, 
Sit  your  own  watch — others  will  surely  sleep, 
Weep  your  own  tears,  ask  none  to  die  with  you. 

—Sarah  M.  B.  Piatt. 


'T'HERE  is  no  folly  equal  to  that  of 
throwing    away   friendship   in   a 
world  where  friendship  is  so  rare. 

— Edward  Bulwer. 


PRIENDSHIP  is  but  a  slow-awaking 
dream,  troubled  at  best. 

—N.  P.  Willis. 


|N  austere  love  springs  up  be- 
tween men  who  have  tugged  at 
the  same  oar  together,  and  are  yoked 
by  custom  and  use  and  the  intimacies 
of  toil.  This  is  a  good  love,  and,  since 
it  allows,  and  even  encourages,  strife, 
and  the  most  brutal  sincerity,  does 
not  die,  but  increases,  and  is  proof 
against  any  absence  and  evil  conduct. 
— Rudyard  Kipling. 

A     FRIENDSHIP  will  be  young  after 

the  lapse  of   half  a  century ;    a 

passion  is  old  at  the  end  of   three 

— Madame  Swetchine. 

TJiTHERTO  doth  love  on  fortune  tend; 

For  who  not  needs  shall  never  lack  a  friend. 

— Shakspere. 

\17HO  ceases  to  be  a  friend,  never 

was  a  friend.  TT  » 

—  Unknown. 


[RIENDSHIP  is  apt  to  creep 
away  into  some  corner  of  the 
temple  on  whose  shrine  love  has 
descended.  This  mild  affection  is 
but  a  twinkling  taper  that  will  burn 
steadily  on,  perhaps  unseen,  amid  the 
dazzling  glory  of  love's  supernatural 
lamp,  to  be  found  shining  benignantly 
when  the  lamp  is  shattered. 

— M.  E.  Br addon. 

'"THERE  is  in  friendship  something 
of  all  relations,  and  something 
above  them  all.  It  is  the  golden 
thread  that  ties  the  hearts  of  all  the 
world. 

— John  Evelyn. 


FRIENDSHIP  is  the  highest  degree  of 
perfection  in  society. 

— Montaigne. 


[HIS  matter  of  friendship  is  often 
regarded  slightingly  as  a  mere 
accessory  of  life,  a  happy  chance  if 
one  falls  into  it,  but  not  as  entering 
into  the  substance  of  life.  No  mis- 
take can  be  greater.  It  is,  as  Emer- 
son says,  not  a  thing  of  "  Glass 
threads  or  frost-work,  but  the  solid- 
est  thing  we  know." 

—  T.  T.  Munger. 


O  MALL  service  is  true  service  while  it  lasts  ; 

Of  friends,  however  humble,  scorn  not  one  ; 
The  daisy,  by  the  shadow  that  it  casts, 

Protects  the  lingering  dewdrop  from  the  sun. 

—  Wordsworth. 


|FTER  a  man  has  passed  forty 
years  of  age  he  makes  no  more 
friends.  He  has  passed  the  period 
when  it  is  possible  for  him  to  open  his 
heart  and  confide  its  best  secrets  to 
anybody  who  did  not  possess  them 
before ;  but  there  is  no  period,  if  he 
lives  to  be  one  hundred,  when,  if  the 
sun  still  shines  for  him  as  it  did  at 
twenty,  his  heart  cannot  open  to  a 
man  whose  heart  is  also  open  to  the 
rays  of  the  god  of  day,  that  he  cannot 
look  out  and  find  a  man  who  can 
sympathize  with  his  success,  who  can 
grieve  with  him  in  his  sorrows,  who 
can  give  him  a  helping  hand — not  in 
a  pecuniary  or  gross  sense — but  a 
helping  hand  if  he  is  blue  or  tired,  and 
who  can  always  be  relied  upon,  either 
at  the  festive  board  or  away  from  it, 
to  say,  "  Old  man,  your  hand.  God 
help  you  ;  I  will." 

— Chauncey  M.  Depew. 


['EN  as  a  traveler,  meeting  with  the  shade 

Of  some  o'erhanging  tree,  awhile  reposes, 
Then  leaves  its  shelter  to  pursue  his  way, 
So  men  meet  friends,  then  part  with  them  forever. 

— Hitopadesa. 


"•pis  pity 

That  wishing  well  had  not  a  body  in't, 
Which  might  be  felt ;  that  we,  the  poorer  born, 
Whose  baser  stars  do  shut  us  up  in  wishes, 
Might  with  effects  of  them  follow  our  friends. 

— Shakspere. 


HEIK  SCHUBLI,  taken  sick  was  borne  one  day, 

Unto  the  hospital.       A  host  the  way 
Behind  him  thronged.     "  Who  are  you  ?"  Schubli  cried. 
"We  are  your  friends,"  the  multitude  replied. 
Sheik  Schubli  threw  a  stone  at  them  ;  they  fled. 
"Come  back,  ye  false  pretenders  ! "  then  he  said ; 
"A  friend  is  one  who,  ranked  among  his  foes, 
By  him  he  loves,  and  stoned,  and  beat  with  blows, 
Will  still  remain  as  friendly  as  before, 
And  to  his  friendship  only  add  the  more." 

— Alger,  from  Jamee. 


TT  may  be  a  cold,  clammy  thing  to 
say,  but  those  that  treat  friendship 
the    same    as    any   other   selfishness 
seem  to  get  the  most  out  of  it. 

— E.  W.  Howe. 


|HE  books  for  young  people  say 
a  great  deal  about  the  selection 
of  friends;  it  is  because  they  really 
have  nothing  to  say  about  friends. 
They  mean  associates  and  confidants 
merely.  Friendship  takes  place  be- 
tween those  who  have  an  affinity  for 
one  another,  and  is  a  perfectly  nat- 
ural and  inevitable  result.  No  pro- 
fessions nor  advances  will  avail. 

—  Thoreau. 


FRIENDSHIP  that  flows  from  the 
*  heart  cannot  be  frozen  by  adver- 
sity, as  the  water  that  flows  from 
the  spring  cannot  congeal  in  winter. 
— -J.  Fenimore  Cooper. 


IE  inherit  our  relatives  and  our 
features  and  may  not  escape 
them ;  but  we  can  select  our  clothing 
and  our  friends,  and  let  us  be  careful 

that  both  fit  us. 

—  Volney  Streamer. 


"Too  late  we  learn — a  man  must  hold  his  friend 
Unjudged,  accepted,  faultless  to  the  end. 

— John  Boyle  O'Reilly. 


J  N  pure  friendship  there  is  a  sensa- 
tion    of    felicity  which   only    the 
well-bred  can  attain. 

— La  Bruyere. 


H  A VE  always  looked  upon  it  as 
the  worst  condition  of  man's 
destiny  that  persons  are  so  often  torn 
asunder  just  as  they  become  happy 

in  each  other's  society. 

— Boswell. 


GENEROUS  friendship  no  cold  medium  knows, 
Burns  with  one  love,  with  one  resentment  glows. 

— Pope. 

CRIENDSHIP   receives   its   crown    in 

r^ 

marriage  when  love  is  mingled 
with  admiration  and  respect. 

— -John  McLandburgh. 


is  a  word  of   Royal   tone. 
Friend  is  a  Poem  all  alone. 

—A  Persian  Poet. 


IIMES  and  places  new  we  know, 
Faces  fresh  and  seasons  strange, 
But  the  friends  of  long  ago 
Do  not  change. 

— Andrew  Lang. 

As  people  grow  older  friends  and 
associates  of  youth  are  apt  to  be 
more  appreciated,  and  old  relations 
are  oftentimes  resumed  that  have 
been  suffered  to  languish  for  many 
years. 

These  links  with  the  past  form  a 
chain  that,  next  to  the  ties  of  blood, 
forms  one  of  the  strongest  relations 
of  social  life. 

Although  pessimists  declare  that 
friendship  is  a  myth  and  what  are 
called  intimates  are  people  who  con- 
sort together  for  amusement  or  self- 
interest,  the  very  fact  that  there  is 
this  feeling  of  especial  kindness  for 
old-time  associates  proves  that  there 
is  such  a  thing  as  sentiment  indepen- 
dent of  worldly  considerations. 

—  Unknown. 


MAN'S  love  is  the  measure  of 
his  fitness  for  good  or  bad  com- 
pany here  or  elsewhere.  Men  are 
tattooed  with  their  special  beliefs, 
like  so  many  South  Sea  Islanders  ; 
but  a  real  human  heart  with  divine 
love  in  it,  beats  with  the  same  glow 
under  all  patterns  of  all  earth's 
thousand  tribes. 

—O.   W.  Holmes. 

t  <  if  E  is  my  friend,"  I  said, — 

"  Be  patient !  "     Overhead 
The  skies  were  drear  and  dim  ; 
And  lo  !  the  thought  of  him 
Smiled  on  my  heart — and  then 
The  sun  shone  out  again  ! 

— -James  Whitcomb  Riley. 

FRIENDSHIP   survives    death    better 

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than  absence. 

— J.  Pettes  Senn. 


JRIENDSHIP  is  good, a  strong 
stick ;  but  when  the  hour 
comes  to  lean  hard  it  gives.  In  the 
day  of  their  bitterest  need  all  souls 

are  alone. 

— Olive  Schreiner. 


\\  /HEN  two  friends  part,  they  should 
lock   up   each   other's  secrets 
and  exchange  the  keys.     The  truly 
noble  mind  has  no  resentments. 

—  Unknown. 


QOMETHING  in  ourselves  warns  us  at 
once  of  any  change  of  feeling  in 

a  friend. 

— Sarah  Grand. 

XT  EVER  to  have  encountered  a  con- 

^  stancy  equal  to  one's  own  is  tragic. 

— Dorothea  Lummis. 


|HO  can  afford  to  go  through  life 
without  especial  friends  on 
whom  he  may  bestow  especial 
care  and  love  ?  When  old  age  comes, 
that  man  is  poor  indeed — in  heart — 
compared  with  what  he  might  have 
been,  if  he  has  loved  no  life-long 
friend.  Select  your  friends  without 
regard  to  what  they  may  perform  for 
you.  That  is  not  friendship  which 
forever  seeks  itself  ;  but  that  which 
gives  itself  for  others.  And  having 
given  once  my  love  to  any  man,  I 
never  will  recall  it.  Hearts  that  once 
were  warmed  and  welded  may  not  be 
safely  severed.  When  the  whirlwind 
of  disaster  comes  and  sweeps  his 
worldly  goods  away,  I  still  will  be 
his  friend.  When  the  brand  and 
blaze  of  scandal  come  and  ruin  repu- 
tation, I  will  remain  his  friend  ;  and 
if  he  meet  disaster  worse  than  these, 
his  fair  fame  ruined,  his  good  soul 
soiled  by  sin,  I  still  will  be — and  all 
the  more — his  friend !  If  in  that 
moment  of  his  moral  overthrow  I 
prove  that  I  am  not  a  friend  indeed, 
what  can  I  say  if  he  do  never  rise 
again,  when  nothing  less  than  love 
had  power,  perchance,  to  rescue  him  ? 
—Perry  Marshall. 


RIENDS— Old  friends^- 
One  sees  how  it  ends. 
A  woman  looks 
Or  a  man  tells  lies, 
And  the  pleasant  brooks 
And  the  quiet  skies 
Enchant  no  more 
As  they  did  before  ; 
And  so  it  ends 
With  friends. 

—  W.  E.  Henley. 


ONLY  he  who  is  unwilling  to  love 
without  being  loved,  is  likely  to 
feel  that  there  is  no  such  thing  as 
friendship  in  the  world. 

— H.  C.  Trumbull. 

\i  7 HEN  friendship  goes  with  love  it 
""    must  play  second  fiddle. 

— German  Proverb. 


|IFE  hath  no  blessing  like  an 
earnest  friend;  than  treasured 
wealth  more  precious,  than  the  power 
of  monarchs,  and  the  people's  loud 

applause. 

— Euripides. 


A    COMMON    friendship — Who    talks 
of  a  common  friendship  ?      There 
is  no  such  thing  in  the  world.       On 
earth  no  word  is  more  sublime. 

— Henry  Drummond. 


E  can  not  be  a  friend  without 
having  one. 

— A.  S.  Hardy* 


|HE  man  who  will  share  his  purse 
with  you  in  the  days  of  poverty 
and  distress,  and  like  the  good  Sa- 
maritan, be  surety  for  your  support 
to  the  landlord,  you  may  admit  to 
your  confidence,  incorporate  into  the 
very  core  of  your  heart,  and  call  him 
friend;  misfortunes  cannot  shake  him 
from  you;  a  prison  will  not  conceal 
you  from  his  sight. 

—J.  Bartlett. 


O  AY  not  that  friendship  is  only  ideal : 

^    That  truth  and  devotion  are  blessings  unknown ; 

For  he  who  believes  every  heart  is  unreal, 

Has  something  unsound  at  the  core  of  his  own. 

— Eliza  Cook. 


|E  can  never  replace  a  friend. 
When  a  man  is  fortunate 
enough  to  have  several,  he  finds 
they  are  all  different.  No  one  has 
a  double  in  friendship. 

— Schiller. 


E  faithful  friend  is  enough;  it  is 
even  much  to  meet  with  one,  yet 

we   cannot   for   the   sake   of    others 

have  too  many  friends. 

— La  Bruyere. 


A    FAITHFUL  friend  is  the  true  image 
™  of  the  Deity. 

— Napoleon. 


|HOU  mayest  be  sure  that  he 
that  will  in  private  tell  thee  of 
thy  faults,  is  thy  friend,  for  he  adven- 
tures thy  dislike,  and  doth  hazard  thy 
hatred ;  there  are  few  men  that  can 
endure  it,  every  man  for  the  most 
part  delighting  in  self-praise,  which 
is  one  of  the  most  universal  follies 
that  bewitcheth  mankind. 

— Sir  Walter  Raleigh. 


•"To  friends  and  eke  to  foes  true  kindness  show  ; 

No  kindly  heart  unkindly  deeds  will  do  ; 
Harshness  will  alienate  a  bosom  friend, 
And  kindness  reconcile  a  deadly  foe. 

—Omar  Khayyam. 


"T"HE  love  of  man  to  woman  is  a  thing 
common  and  of  course,  and  at  first 
partakes  more  of  instinct  and  passion 
than  of  choice  ;  but  true  friendship 
between  man  and  man  is  infinite  and 
immortal. 

—Plato. 


|OW  many  of  us  can  say  of  our 
most  intimate  alter  ego,  leav- 
ing alone  friends  of  the  outer  circle, 
that  he  is  the  man  we  should  have 
chosen,  as  the  net  result  after  adding 
up  all  the  points  in  human  nature 
that  we  love,  and  principles  we  our- 
selves hold,  and  subtracting  all  that 
we  hate  ?  The  man  is  really  some- 
body we  got  to  know  by  mere 
physical  juxtaposition  long  main- 
tained, and  was  taken  into  our  confi- 
dence, and  even  heart,  as  a  makeshift. 
—  Thomas  Hardy. 

'TpHE  vital  air  of  friendship  is  com- 
posed of   confidence.      Friend- 
ship perishes  in  proportion  as  this  air 

diminishes. 

— Joseph  Roux. 


|HY  friend  will  come  to  thee  unsought, 
With  nothing  can  his  love  be  bought. 
His  soul  thine  own  will  know  at  sight, 
With  him  thy  heart  can  speak  outright. 
Greet  him  nobly,  love  him  well, 
Show  him  where  your  best  thoughts  dwell, 
Trust  him  greatly  and  for  aye  ; 
A  true  friend  comes  but  once  your  way. 

—  Unknown. 


"pHE  supreme   happiness  of  life  is 
the  conviction  of  being  loved  for 
yourself,   or,   more   correctly,  being 
loved  in  spite  of  yourself. 

—  Victor  Hugo. 


FRIENDSHIP  is  a  word  the  very  sight 
of  which  in  print  makes  the  heart 
warm. 

— Augustine  Birr  ell. 


WONDER  if  there  is  anything 
in  this  world  as  beautiful  as 
good,  strong  friendship  between  two 
men  ?  They  don't  go  round  doing 
the  molly  coddle  act ;  they  don't  kiss 
each  other  every  time  they  meet ;  in 
fact,  they  never  do  kiss  each  other, 
unless  one  is  lying  cold  in  death ; 
but  they  are  sure  one  knows  the 
other  is  always  going  to  stand  by 
him,  and  they  feel  that,  no  matter 
what  happens,  each  can  rely  on  the 
other. 

—  Unknown. 


VA/E  talk  of   choosing  our  friends, 
but  friends  are  self  elected. 

— Emerson. 


|O    MOISTEN  with  one's  tears  the  other's  brow, 

If  needs  be. 
To  turn  one's  back  on  pleasure,  maybe  life, 
To  take  and  hold  all  troubles,  burdens,  strife, 

If  needs  be. 
To  bind  oneself  with  an  unwritten  vow, 

If  needs  be. 

To  ever  yield  a  sympathetic  ear, 

If  needs  be. 

To  laugh  when  laughter  onward  flies, 
To  laugh,  though  for  us  mirth  but  cries, 

If  needs  be. 
To  bravely  face,  and  show  no  cowardly  fear, 

If  needs  be. 

To  be  stone  deaf  when  censure's  in  the  air, 

If  needs  be. 

To  lose  one's  wit  and  give  no  apt  reply, 
To  seem  a  fool,  rather  than  draw  a  sigh, 

If  needs  be. 
To  yield  in  all  thy  dealings  double  share, 

If  needs  be. 

— Charlotte  Mansfield 


|ANY  kinds  of  fruit  grow  upon 
the  tree  of  life,  but  none  so 
sweet  as  friendship;  as  with  the 
orange  tree  its  blossoms  and  fruit 
appear  at  the  same  time,  full  of  re- 
freshment for  sense  and  for  soul. 

— Lucy  Larcom. 


"To  contract  ties  of  friendship  with 
any  one,  is  to  contract  friendship 
with  his  virtue;  there  ought  not  to 
be  any  other  motive  in  friendship. 

— Confucius. 


M 


ARK  the  difference  between  inti- 
macy and  friendship. 

— Erwin  E.  Wood. 


leave  my  friend  some- 
PJBJJ  thing  more  to  desire  of  me. 

Be  useful  to  my  friend,  as  far  as 
he  permits,  and  no  further. 

Be  much  occupied  with  my  own 
affairs,  and  little,  very  little,  with 
those  of  my  friend. 

Leave  my  friend  always  at  liberty 
to  think  and  act  for  himself,  espec- 
ially in  matters  of  little  importance. 

— Gold  Dust. 


•"THERE  are  no  rules  for  friendship. 
It  must  be  left  to  itself.     We  can 
not  force  it  any  more  than  love. 

— Hazlitt. 


IHINK  of  the  importance  of 
friendship  in  the  education  of 
mqn.  It  will  make  a  man  honest;  it 
wilV  make  him  a  hero;  it  will  make 
him  ig  saint.  .It  is  the  state  of  the 
just  dealing  with  the  just,  the  mag- 
nanimckis  with  the  magnanimous,  the 
sincere  Vith  the  sincere,  man  with 

man. 

—  Thoreau. 

DEOPLE  whip  always  receive  yon  with 
great  cordiality  rarely  care  for  you. 
Your  true  friends  make  you  a  partaker 
of  their  humo^B. 

— Manley  H.  Pike. 


A     MAN'S    reputation     is    what    his 
friends  say  stout  him/    His  char- 

.  "v  <«^ 

acter  is  what  his  ^enemies  say  about 
him.  — Unknown. 


[EJO1CE,  and  men  will  seek  you; 

Grieve,  and  they  turn  and  go, 
They  want  full  measure  of  all  your  pleasure, 

But  they  do  not  need  your  woe. 
Be  glad,  and  your  friends  are  many ; 
Be  sad,  and  you  lose  them  all, — 
There  are  none  to  decline  your  nectar'd  wine, 
But  alone  you  must  drink  life's  gall. 

— Ella    Wheeler   Wilcox. 


IT  is  easy  to  find  a  lover  and  to  re- 
tain a  friend:  what  is  difficult  is  to 
find    the   friend   and    to    retain   the 
lover. 

— Levis. 


T   AUGHTER  is  not  3.  bad  beginning 
for  a  friendship,    and   it    is   the 
best  ending  for  one. 

— Oscar   Wilde. 


[HERE  are  many  moment^  in 
friendship,  as  in  love,  when 
silence  is  beyond  words.  The  faults 
of  our  friend  may  be  clear  to  us,  but 
it  is  well  to  seem  to  shut  our  eyes  to 
them.  Friendship  is  usually  treated 
by  the  majority  of  mankind  as  a  tough 
and  everlasting  thing  which  will  sur- 
vive all  manner  of  bad  treatment. 
But  this  is  an  exceedingly  great  and 
foolish  error;  it  may  die  in  an  hour 
of  a  single  unwise  word;  its  condi- 
tions of  existence  are  that  it  should 
be  dealt  with  delicately  and  tenderly, 
being  as  it  is  a  sensitive  plant  and  not 
a  roadside  thistle.  We  must  not  ex- 
pect our  friend  to  be  above  humanity. 

— Ouida. 


|N  the  hour  of  distress  and  misery 
the  eye  of  every  mortal  turns 
to  friendship;  in  the  hour  of  gladness 
and  conviviality,  what  is  our  want  ? 
It  is  friendship.  When  the  heart 
overflows  with  gratitude,  or  with  any 
other  sweet  and  sacred  sentiment, 
what  is  the  word  to  which  it  would 
give  utterance  ?  A  friend. 

—  W.  S.  Landor. 


I  F  your  friend  has  got  a  heart, 

There  is  something  fine  in  him ; 
Cast  away  his  darker  part, — 
Cling  to  what's  divine  in  him. 

—  Unknown. 


|HE  tide  of  friendship  does  not 
rise  high  on  the  banks  of  perfec- 
tion. Amiable  weaknesses  and  short- 
comings are  the  food  of  love.  It  is 
from  the  roughnesses  and  imperfect 
breaks  in  a  man  that  you  are  able  to 
lay  hold  of  him.  My  friend  is  not 
perfect  —  no  more  am  I  —  and  so  we 
suit  each  other  admirably. 

— Alexander  Smith. 


T^RUE  friendship  cannot  be  among 
many.  For  since  our  faculties 
are  of  a  finite  energy,  'tis  impossible 
our  love  can  be  very  intense  when 
divided  among  many.  No,  the  rays 
must  be  contracted  to  make  them 
burn. 

—John  Norris. 


[STEEM  of  great  powers,  or 
amiable  qualities  newly  dis- 
covered, may  embroider  a  day  or 
week,  but  a  friendship  of  twenty 
years  is  interwoven  with  the  texture 
of  life.  A  friend  may  be  found  and 
lost,  but  an  old  friend  never  can  be 
found,  and  nature  has  provided  that 
he  cannot  easily  be  lost. 

—  Samuel  Johnson. 

DE  able  for  thine  enemy 

Rather  in  power  than  use,  and  keep  thy  friend 
Under  thine  own  life's  key. 

—  Shakspere. 


"TRUE  love  and  fidelity  are  no  more 
to  be  estranged  by  ill  than  false- 
hood  and  hollow-heartedness  can  be 
conciliated  by  good  usage. 

—  Charles  Lamb. 


IN  old  friendship  is  like  an  old 
piece  of  china.  It  is  precious 
only  just  so  long  as  it  is  perfect. 
Once  it  is  broken,  no  matter  how 
cleverly  you  mend  it,  it  is  good  for 
nothing  but  to  put  on  a  shelf  in  a 
corner  where  it  won't  be  too  closely 
looked  at. 

— Amelia  B.  Edwards. 


IF  we  would  build  on  a  sure  founda- 
tion in  friendship,  we  must  love 
our   friends   for  their  sakes  rather 
than  for  our  own. 

— Charlotte  Bronte. 


o  ATIRE  is  a  greater  enemy  to  friend- 
ship  than  is  anger. 

— Attwell. 


|RUE,  it  is  most  painful  not  to 
meet  the  kindness  and  affection 
you  feel  you  have  deserved,  and  have 
a  right  to  expect  from  others ;  but  it 
is  a  mistake  to  complain  of  it,  for  it  is 
no  use ;  you  cannot  extort  friendship 

with  a  cocked  pistol. 

— Sidney  Smith. 


IVTEVER  refuse  any  advance  of  friend- 
ship, for  jf  nine  out  of  ten  bring 
you  nothing,  one  alone  may  repay 
you.  Everything  is  of  service  to  one 
who  knows  how  to  use  his  tools. 

— Madame  de  Tencin. 


DEASON  is  the  torch  of   friendship, 
^  judgment    its   guide,    tenderness 
its  aliment. 

— De  Bonald. 


JOT  understood.     How  trifles  often  change  us! 

HH      The  thoughtless  sentence  or  the  fancied  slight 
Destroy  long  years  of  friendship  and  estrange  us, 
And  on  our  souls  there  falls  a  freezing  blight, 

Not  understood. 

—  Thomas  Bracken. 


""TAKE  envy  out  of  a  character  and 
it    leaves   great    possibilities   for 
friendship. 

— Elizabeth  B.  Custer. 


TV]  EVER  yet 

Was  noble  man  but  made  ignoble  talk. 
He  makes  no  friend  who  never  made  a  foe. 

—  Tennyson. 


|LD  friends  are  the  great  bles- 
sing of  one's  later  years.  Half 
a  word  conveys  one's  meaning.  They 
have  a  memory  of  the  same  events, 
and  have  the  same  mode  of  thinking. 
I  have  young  relations  that  may  grow 
upon  me,  for  my  nature  is  affec- 
tionate, but  can  they  grow  old  friends? 
— Horace  Walpole. 


CRIENDS  are  like  melons;  shall  I  tell  you  why? 
To  find  one  good  you  must  a  hundred  try. 

— Claude  Mermet. 


HTHE  only  true  and  firm  friendship 
is  that  between  man  and  woman, 
because  it  is  the  only  affection   ex- 
empt from  actual  or  possible  rivalry. 

— A.   Comte. 


IEOPLE  who  have  warm  friends 
are  healthier  and  happier  than 
those  who  have  none.  A  single  real 
friend  is  a  treasure  worth  more  than 
gold  or  precious  stones.  Money  can 
buy  many  things,  good  and  evil.  All 
the  wealth  of  the  world  could  not 
buy  you  a  friend  or  pay  you  for  the 
loss  of  one. 

—  Unknown. 

"pHE  ideal  of  friendship  is  to  feel  as 
one  while  remaining  two. 

— Madame  Swetchine. 

act  the   part   of  a  true   friend 
requires     more      conscientious 
feeling  than  to  fill  with  credit  and 
complacency    any   other  ^tatipn    or 

capacity  in  social  life.    •NJ%V-  ?iu, 

— Sarnh  Ellis. 


|F  one  have  any  oro  sodo  about 

one   at   all,  either  mental  or 

moral,  one  never  counts  what  shreds 
of  the  good  metal  one  drops  along 
the  roads.  If  others  pick  it  up,  let 
them.  To  be  of  ever  so  little  use  is 
all  one  can  hope  for  in  this  world. 

— Ouida. 


A    FRIEND  that  you  have  to  buy  won't 
be  worth  what  you  pay  for  him, 
no  matter  what  that  may  be. 

— George  D.  Prentice. 

*~ro  practise  a  deception  is  almost  to 
commit  a  crime.  The  flow  of 
kindness  thus  driven  back  is  with- 
drawn from  others  whom  it  might 
have  benefited. 

— Carmen  Sylva. 


(HOUGH  the  seasons  of  man  full  of  losses 

Make  empty  the  years  full  of  youth, 

If  but  one  thing  be  constant  in  crosses, 

Change  lays  not  her  hand  upon  truth; 
Hopes  die,  and  their  tombs  are  for  token 

That  the  grief  as  the  joy  of  them  ends, 
Ere  time  that  breaks  all  men  has  broken 

The  faith  between  friends. 

— Swinburne. 


DEFINITIONS  OF  "A    FRIEND." 

London  TIT-BITS  offered  a  prize  for  the  best 
explanation  of  the  meaning  of  the  words 
"A  Friend."  The  winning  definition  is  given 
first,  followed  by  some  of  the  best  of  the  others 
submitted. 

|HE  FIRST  PERSON  WHO  COMES  IN 
WHEN  THE   WHOLE  WORLD  HAS 
GONE  OUT. 

A  bank  of  credit  on  which  we  can 
draw  supplies  of  confidence,  coun- 
sel, sympathy,  help  and  love. 

One  who  combines  for  you  alike  the 
pleasures  and  benefits  of  society 
and  solitude. 

A  jewel  whose  lustre  the  strong 
acids  of  poverty  and  misfortune 
cannot  dim. 

One  who  multiplies  joys,  divides 
griefs,  and  whose  honesty  is  in- 
violable. 

One 


One  who  loves   the  truth  and  you, 

and  will  tell  the  truth  in  spite  of 

you. 
The  Triple  Alliance  of  the  three  great 

powers,  Love, Sympathy,  and  Help. 
A  watch   which   beats   true   for  all 

time,  and  never  "  runs  down." 
A  permanent  fortification  when  one's 

affairs  are  in  a  state  of  siege. 
One    who   to   himself   is  true,   and 

therefore  must  be  so  to  you. 
A  balancing  pole  to  him  who  walks 

across  the  tightrope  of  life. 
The   link   in   life's   long   chain  that 

bears  the  greatest  strain. 
A  harbor  of  refuge  from  the  stormy 

waves  of  adversity. 
One  who  considers  my  need  before 

my  deservings. 

The 


The  jewel  that  shines  brightest   in 

the  darkness. 
A  stimulant  to  the  nobler  side  of  our 

nature. 
A  volume   of   sympathy    bound   in 

cloth. 

A  diamond  in  the  ring  of  acquaint- 
ance. 

A  star  of  hope  in  the  cloud  of  adver- 
sity. 

Onfe  truer  to  me  than  I  am  to  myself. 

Friendship,  one  soul  in  two  bodies. 

An  insurance  against  misanthropy. 

A  link  of  gold  in  the  chain  of  life. 

One  who  understands  our  silence. 

The  essence  of  pure  devotion. 

The   sunshine   of  calamity. 

A    second    right    hand. 


RONDEAU 
TO  W.  H. 

I  HAT  makes  a  friend  ?     The  heart  that  glows 

With  changeless  love  in  Arctic  snows, 
Nor  fails  to  cheer  'mid  desert  sand? 
This  plainer  speaks  than  clasp  of  hand: 
Hands  may  be  firmly  clasped  by  foes. 

How  quickly  liking  often  grows, 

Before  the  speech  we  understand ! 
By  gleam  of  eye  one  often  knows 

What  makes  a  friend. 

A  thing  far  frailer  than  a  rose 

Turns  sudden  strong  as  iron  band : 
The  world  again  is  newly  planned ; 
Upon  the  soul  there  comes  repose ; 
But,  ah,  no  words  can  quite  disclose 
What  makes  a  friend  ! 

—  Volney  Streamer. 


|F  words  came  as  ready  as  ideas, 
and  ideas  as  feelings,  I  could 
say  ten  hundred  kind  things.  You 
know  not  my  supreme  happiness  at 
having  one  on  earth  whom  I  can  call 

friend. 

— Charles  Lamb, 


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